Yes, I’m talking to you.
As a writer of a beauty column, I deal primarily with cosmetics, creams, lotions and potions and anything applied to the face to enhance and further beautify. There is the old cliché that says “beauty is only skin deep. “ I disagree because I Know true beauty comes from the heart. I have known people who were horribly disfigured but who were beautiful because of what emanated from the inside. How many of us have met a strikingly beautiful face with an ugly heart. There is another side to the skin deep theory and that is “ugly goes clean to the bone”. All that is a topic for another time though.
Beneath all of the applications of foundation, lipstick, mascara, eyeshadow, etc. lies your virgin face. We cannot allow the beauty industry to define our beauty. There is so much pressure placed on us to look like the images we see on TV, magazines and film. This especially is prevalent among our young girls who strive to achieve the unattainable airbrushed looks they see in magazines. I was very impressed with Tyra Banks, a former runway model, who has published a coffee table book revealing herself au natural which is quite different than the Tyra wearing a full face of makeup. She related that she, herself cannot look like the pictures the magazines portray.
Today’s focus is on you loving your beautiful self. Knowing that you are wonderfully and fearfully made attests to your uniqueness —in all the world there has never been nor will there ever be another you. When you wake up in the morning and look at the face in the mirror what do you see? Can you see yourself for who you really are—God’s beautiful one-of-a-kind creation? Human nature, of course, usually focuses on negative aspects and always sees the glass as half empty when it is really half full.
Take a good look at your face and see your features—eyes, nose, lips, cheeks, etc. Do not focus on negativity. Almost two years ago I lost my mother and now more and more when I Iook in my mirror I notice so much of me that looks like her. I absolutely love my lips because they look just like hers. For me it’s Gods little gift to me and I am so appreciative. Learn to love you as you are. Love the unembellished morning face you see in the mirror. When you accept that your natural features are already appealing you can feel comfortable with or without cosmetics and learn to look like yourself, only better.
What about cosmetic procedures? If you have learned to love and accept yourself then any additional enhancement fillers, nips and tucks, etc. will always be because you want to, not because you feel you have to. Self-confidence and self-esteem are byproducts of loving yourself. Loving yourself is pre-requisite to loving others.