These principles are nothing new [ancient wisdom often isn’t] but credit goes to Farnoosh Brock, Life Coach for outlining them so beautifully.
1. Think of life as a circle instead of a straight line: If you have to imagine your life’s path, think of it as a circle. Circles, the shape of sun, moon and rings, the symbol of wholeness and unity, simply radiate calmness. Lines, on the other hand, can go deep into the unknown and uncertainty and stay hidden from view, if such were our visual view of the world. Imagine instead that your life and all your fantastic habits travel on a circle where you can see the end from any angle and which promptly brings you back to another beginning.
2. Let complimentary habits build upon each other: It is rare that we select habits that are worlds apart. Our personality is intertwined into the habits we wish to build so why not exploit the relevancy of our habits. Just as like people give each other energy, like habits can encourage one another to thrive. [EXAMPLE: eating a healthy breakfast, taking a daily hike, photography] Perhaps I can turn “these days” into “the last few years” by letting one strong health-enhancing habit feed another. Think not how on earth you can make time for two habits; think instead how much easier it is to master two like habits than one great one. Find power in the relevance of your habits.
3. Accept starting over – even countless times – as progress: Starting over is not easy for some. For me, I used to declare defeat and move on to the next habit. My mental state of seeking “perfection” could not accept that I had failed and so I would move on to pursue a new something. Sometimes this turns out for the better. In fact, sometimes, the habit may not be suitable to your lifestyle, your personality or your long-term goals so listen to yourself. Always remember why you pursued this habit and if you hear a compelling response in return, tune in and listen to it – then allow yourself to fail and start over. It IS the best form of progress.
4. Practice firmness and kindness with yourself: My grandmother’s rule is to always be kind to myself and others. My rule to be firm with myself. The sweet combination is key to sustaining good habits but it takes self-awareness to develop. It is important to never lose the kindness to yourself; I have many times and always with regret in hindsight. Habits are incredibly difficult to form for some of us. Practice firmness and self-discipline when on target or ahead of your goals and practice kindness when you fall behind once a while. It is the ideal balance for helping your habits thrive beyond the 30-day initial phase.
5. Know the difference between support and competition: Competition with others or with yourself will not go as far in forming your habits as will a supportive community of like-minded people. Competition can work in building habits but I find it to be far less effective. With competition, we have a desire to surpass another person in a similar task whereas with support, we know it be a community of many vested in same goals as us and happy to see us succeed. The presence of on-going support as we build our lifelong habits will tip the scale from possible success to a definite one.
6. Understand life itself sometimes throws off habits: There are times when it really (really) is not your fault. There are days when life throws you a curve ball and you have to step back to take care of life immediately. Naturally, self-improvement habits step back in the presence of emergencies. Accept it. Remember only one thing: You can start over when the dust settles and you may just find renewed sense of purpose and motivation to continue on with your habits.
7. Repeat your fixed-day challenge more than once: Some researchers believe that it actually takes 66 days on average to form a habit. Other people report the same for 21 days, the magic number which locks the habit into our body and mind for good. Both ideas may have a dosage of truth – the determining factor is YOU. How long it takes you who is so individual and unique. If you belong in the first category, your best outcome is to do two back-to-back monthly challenges and re-build seeds of habitude more slowly but with deeper roots and stronger foundation.
8. Reject the falsehood of being too old or too weak or too incapable to change: There are senior citizens in my killer cycling class. They know not to allow age set artificial boundaries in their aspirations. Be just like that. Change takes guts so take a giant leap of faith into it. Act as a stubborn child who refuses to believe such outrageous claims. Think outside any box and in fact, crush the box. Create your own perfect box for life and decide between yourself, your body and your mind, that you are beautiful and powerful beyond your own imagination and it would be a shame not to find out just how much.
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